So I wasn’t sure I’d share this or not, but the topic has been on my mind a lot recently. Love, maybe should’ve written about this back in February but hey life tends to unfold how it unfolds.
Love and I have a……complicated relationship. People talk about how they fell in love and I’m sitting here like yeah, yup, good for you. Then I get up and leave the room. It’s not like I’m opposed to other peoples’ happiness or anything. I will say though that having had my share or romantic dalliances along with a few legitimate relationships I can assure y’all I learned some rather interesting things about love and life.
For me the relationships I was in previously have helped shape me into the man I am. I’ve learned that even though you’re in a relationship there need to be boundaries. You need to be at least like secure in who YOU are before going into a relationship. Otherwise you can just be swept around by the storm of everything.
It pays to listen to the advice of friends and loved ones regarding who you’re interested in. Seriously listen to them. For me…I’m a Christian guy, love exploring, lil wild, a caring heart….The list goes on. I’m sure there are many takes on love and what TRUE love is. There’s ideas on soulmates and whatnot. I guess my thoughts are that after the relationships I’ve had is that you’ll know.
I know, I know that sounds like ancient mumbo jumbo and hokey religion. Seriously though, over Christmas vacation I had around an hour conversation with someone. I felt a certain something…click I guess in my mind when we met and chatted. After quite a few chats over social media, texting and phone calls I have to say…
I felt an emotional and spiritual bond with her and from what we’ve chatted about she felt that too. Y’all I’ve never been married or anything but way I reckon is that love’s different types the greeks haves several words to describe the type of love. Best I can figure is that TRUE love, embodies all of these. Along with that, life is clearly insane. There are things which can cause disagreements and fights though I will say. Love is a choice. You imagine your grandparents or relatives who’ve been married for years.
They had to have arguments and disagreements. Yet they chose to love each other enough to work through those disagreements. They chose love. They chose to love each other. Probably one of my favorite parts of the Bible 1 Corinthians 13:1-13…
13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift ofprophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body [a]to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not [b]puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, [c]thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is [d]perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
These are the goals of what love should be. To me, being a man includes being open with your feelings. Being open with your partner, letting God lead you both. I mean I’m 29 and all I know is that love. True, real love is something….sacred. Honestly it’s up to us to define what love is……
Hopefully y’all are being safe out there.
God be with you my friends,
Richard
Holy Water, Burning Man 